S1E21 Charlene Byars: The Power of Self-Love and Conscious Dating: Insights from Charlene Byers

Introduction: 

Welcome to the Swipe Right Effect Podcast, where we explore the transformative journey of finding love and getting unstuck. Hosted by author CK Collins, also known as Kelly, this podcast delves into the wisdom and guidance needed to break free from life's ruts and connect with your true self. In this episode, we have a special guest, Charlene Byers, a relationship expert, dating and love coach, and certified empowerment coach. Charlene specializes in helping single, successful career women attract devoted masculine partners who align with their values. Let's dive into the conversation and explore Charlene's insights on where to find love, what men really want, and why self-love is the key to it all.

Where Are All the Good Men?

Charlene begins her journey by sharing a personal story of her 23-year marriage that, despite her love, lacked alignment. She realized that leaving was the only way forward. After her divorce, Charlene embarked on a new chapter of her life, looking for a deeper connection and true alignment. However, she faced challenges in the dating world, repeatedly attracting the wrong type of men. Charlene began to doubt the existence of good men.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

Charlene's journey led her to self-reflection. She recognized that her past experiences had left her with certain patterns and energies that influenced her dating choices. She highlights the significance of childhood experiences in shaping one's relationship patterns. Charlene explains how the energy she projected, driven by her past, was attracting similar energies in her partners.

The Transformation Begins

To break these patterns and attract healthier relationships, Charlene embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing limiting beliefs. Charlene shares that this work allowed her to shift her energy, leading to personal growth and self-acceptance.

Understanding Female Archetypes

Charlene discusses the role of female archetypes in understanding oneself in relationships. She introduces three archetypes: Woman Energy, Daughter Energy, and Mother Energy. These archetypes help women recognize how they show up in relationships. The goal is to embody the Woman Energy archetype, where self-love, self-leadership, and alignment are central.

Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

Charlene's coaching approach focuses on identifying and reframing limiting beliefs. By questioning the validity of these beliefs, women can replace them with empowering narratives that serve their growth. This process creates space for self-love and acceptance.

Healing through Embodiment Work

Physical release is a vital component of healing. Charlene believes that emotions become trapped in the body and need to be released. She guides women through exercises and meditations to help them physically release emotional tensions.

Embracing Conscious Dating

Charlene's coaching culminates in what she calls "conscious dating, the fun way." This approach empowers women to approach dating with a sense of self-assuredness and joy. By integrating their newfound self-love and insights, they can navigate the dating world with confidence and authenticity.

In conclusion, Charlene Byers' journey from feeling stuck to finding love and alignment highlights the transformative power of self-love and self-awareness. Her coaching approach emphasizes the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs, understanding archetypal energies, and healing through embodiment work. By embracing these principles, women can embark on a conscious dating journey that leads to more fulfilling and aligned relationships.